Tuesday, August 12, 2008


With a couple of different issues going on recently, I have been forced to deal with some hurt. And because of the way I am wired, I guess, I often turn inward to deal with these things. I might even be able to preach truth to myself and ask God to help me deal with it, but it usually stops there, without really involving anyone else, at least for a little while. The interesting thing is, I want and almost expect guys in my discipleship group as well as my other friends to invite me in immediately so they won't be alone. Well, last night, as a friend and I were discussing some things, I became very convicted of my own inability to invite others in to share in my struggles.

I share these thoughts after being stirred by this blog entry written by my roommate and good friend Roy. I wholeheartedly agree with him as he talks about our generation and the lack of wisdom and counsel that we are receiving from others. I am so often that "dumb ass, fighting the flight to self absorption and personal study." And I pray with God's help and my friends' help that I can move on and truly be doing life together in community.

A couple of weeks ago I did a study on how the book of Proverbs deals with this issue (I think perhaps God was trying to get my attention with all these things). And there are at least 25 verses that deal with this issue directly. A verse that really stuck out to me, Proverbs 18:1, has this to say:
"Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgement."

And finally I can't resist a final quote from an amazing book on this subject, Life Together:
“The Christ in his own heart is weaker than the Christ in the word of his brother; his own heart is uncertain, his brother’s is sure.”


  1. good thoughts, great quotes...noticed my tendency lately to just be to myself and try to figure it out all alone...crazy how much that mindset affects us in this indivualistic society

    glad you are my roommate

  2. good post, good thoughts.
    there with you friend.
    see you soon :)

  3. Anonymous1:34 PM

    watch "about a boy" and listen to "I am a rock" by simon and garfunkel. glad to be a part of a community with you, and thanks for being part of mine.

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  5. whitney wood10:58 AM

    I just started my first blog! www.whitneywood.tumblr.com and have been looking at yalls for tips. I was moved by this post as I tend to do the same thing. C.S. Lewis gives a wonderful example. In his example, there were these 3 great friends and one died. He says that when he lost friend A, he figured well now he will have more of friend B. However, what he began to realize is that he lost the part of friend B that only friend A could bring out.
    He began to realize that you can only truly know an individual human being in a fellowship. You really can’t know know a person one on one b/c you only see the part of that person that you bring out. Only when you see that person with other friends, the more you share a friend with other friends, the more of the person you have.
    Here’s the point:
    If a finite human being can’t be known one on one… if a person has to be known corporately, how much more of God?
    Tim Keller says “You will never really know God unless you also corporately praise, corporately pray, corporately study the word of God. You gotta do it with others or you will never know Him at all. You’ll get a distorted little view of Him. Unless you are willing to read, to pray, to talk, to worship, to praise together, all the time.”

  6. Scott and Roy
    Thanks guys. I'm glad to share life with you both.

    Hey, thanks for the comment. You can't get much better than Keller and Lewis. They both have incredible insight. And thanks for the link to your blog. I'll have to put in in my Google Reader and keep up with it now.